Friendship

FRIEND [FREND]

-- a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.

Reading this, does it make you think of how many people who're attatched to you and show personal regard? Ask yourself how many FRIENDS you have.

To be honest, I'd say I only have a few. Sure, I know a lot of people, but how many could I actually act my crazy old self to? How many could I gush over about my life's passions? How many of them could I actually tell my secrets to? How many of them would accept me imperfections and all?

And especially, how many of them would do all those same things to me?

Let's face it: you don't have that much friends either. Maybe you do, maybe you don't but I bet you have only have a percentage of your friends who actually denotes FRIEND.

We all want to be friends with everyone and want everyone to be friends with us, but being a friend to one isn't easy. It's an emotional bond between you and that person. You're supposed to have this deep connection with that person that's enough for you both to trust each other, sincerely care about their well being, embrace each other's differences, accept whatever skeletons you both keep in your closets and much more.

I've had "friends" who turned their backs on me. Whether it's because of a falling out, rivalry or simply because we just don't speak and see each other anymore(distance is to blame), it hurts. It hurts because these are the people I thought will be by my back till the very end then suddenly--VOILA! Friendship gone.

Nothing should go through a friendship. Friends should hold on to each other and build a shield against problems and such. Friends should make you realize the shit you're going through and not make you feel like the shit. Friends should always communicate regardless of the different schools, cities, countries, galaxies they each live in. Friends should learn how to be there when you need them. Friends should be people you could laugh loudly with and would laugh loudly along with you. Friends should also kick the balls of the person who broke your heart. (LOL)

If you have friends(as in one who truly embodies the real meaning) then by all means, keep your friendship with that person/persons sacred and make sure those people or that person does the same. They say keeping a friend is harder than keeping a lover, but at the same time like having a committed relationship,true friendship is a two-way street. Also, friendship starts with you. To have a friend, you must be a friend.

Let me quote a Persian proverb before finishing this entry: It's better to be in chains with friends than in a garden full of strangers. Tamuhh!!!

"What is a friend? A single soul, dwelling in two bodies" - Aristotle